Being a mom is hard, it's frustrating, it's overwhelming, and it can make you feel like a bad person. I struggle so much with mom guilt and lashing out at my kids when it all becomes too much. I love my kids more than myself, but sometimes I just wish they didn't yell so loud, picked up their toys, and listened when I told them something. However, we all know that's highly unrealistic, especially when you have two young toddlers running around. So I've put together 3 Simple Tricks To Stop Mom Anger!
Stop and Think
I know this sounds super cliche, but in all honesty, this is something I wish I did more. I am prone to immediately lash out without thinking and just rip into my kids due to frustration. However, I always immediately feel horrible and apologize for my actions. Changing my first instinct to stopping and thinking, instead of immediate reaction is going to take time! I am not the best when it comes to this.
The reason to stop and think is simple, why are you getting mad? Is it because they are bothering you, or do they just want to play? So many times I have caught myself yelling at them for something that isn't their fault. It's not their fault that I'm frustrated with finances or another telemarketing call. It's not their fault that I'm in a grumpy mood, and have a short temper. So why punish them for something that isn't their fault?
Take breaks from cleaning, working, and doing the finances. Instead, hop on the couch and watch a movie or show your kids enjoy. Maybe bake some cookies with them, or play with them in their room. Take time to just be present and enjoy their company. It's ok to relax and be lazy sometimes. Let them play in their room, or make a mess. Just let yourself not care for a little while till you have a bit more motivation and a better mindset.
This one is probably the most important one in my opinion. Again one I struggle with sometimes, and I catch my husband forgetting as well. Our kids want us to be present. They want us to play with them, have fun with them, watch them put on a play, and just be there for them.
If your child is trying to get your attention while you messing with your phone, but the stupid thing down and listen to your kid! Don't get frustrated with them, they are just trying to pull you back into the present, to what matters. They grow up so fast! Enjoy every moment they crave your attention.
I know these tips probably seem super basic, simple, or redundant. But ask yourself how many times you have been guilty of lashing out for no reason, not paying attention to your kids, feeling horrible when all they wanted was for you to play? I know I'm guilty, and I know I struggle with this.
Were human, we make mistakes, and we lash out. However, it doesn't mean we can't work on being better moms! So love on your kiddos, apologize when you make a mistake, and let them know your human. They will learn that you don't mean it, and not take it as a sign you don't love them.
Have more simple tricks to calm mom anger and tame the beast within? I'd love to hear it down in the comments, or you can send me a message on any of my social media!
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